Being cheated on is the absolute worst. Your faith in relationships is tested. Your self-esteem drops to an all time low. You feel lied to, betrayed, and exist in a complete state of shock. Often when we are cheated on, we start blaming ourselves. “If only I hadn’t nagged so much” or, the worst, “if only my partner had found me more attractive.”
Here at Pretty Padded Room, we take accepting responsibility very seriously. However, when your partner cheats on you, you are responsible for none of their actions.
We recently caught wind of this horrid ad from the “dating” site Ashley Madison. This ad not only promotes the sickening trend of body shaming, but also sends the message to women that if they don’t meet society’s outrageous ideal of beauty, their partners are allowed to cheat.
Enough is enough! The truth behind this campaign is that plus size model, Jacqueline, did not even know she was going to be a part of it. Speaking to Jezebel , she said that the photo was taken for another ad years ago, and then unknowingly sold to Ashley Madison. Horrified by this discovery, Jacqueline had this to say:
"It's bad enough that a business exists that encourages and profits from cheaters, but, worse still, that they have the gall to blame a woman's body on the act, rather than the man who is incapable of commitment and loyalty.”
We couldn’t agree more! Getting cheated on isn’t about YOU, it’s about your partner’s inability to commit.
That’s why we are launching the #itwasntme campaign on Twitter. Tweet us @prettypaddedrm the real reason your partner cheated (include the hashtag #itwasntme), and take back the power. We hope this campaign will create a sense of community among people who have previously felt powerless because of their partner’s betrayal.
By letting go of the blame we place on ourselves, we can make room for all the love we have left -- for our own bodies, and also for future healthy relationships.
We hope you’ll join us and spread the word!
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