Are all these proposal videos getting out of hand?

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It seems like the marriage proposal video trend only seems to be getting more and more over the top.  If you have time, check out this dude’s 27-minute take on it.  Yes, 27 minutes–it’s a proposal video to end all proposal videos.  But we have to wonder, this trend of outlandish viral content the new expression of love?  Are we focusing more on sharing them as opposed to just being in them?

It kind of feels like something isn’t real if it’s not on the internet.  And weirdly enough, that goes for relationships as well.  So coming from a culture where not posting a relationship is a bit strange, it makes sense that we make proposals and engagements so visible to each other.  As if we are proving ourselves, obtaining love validation from the internet.

People may start feeling the pressure to make their love more public, that their engagements are not as important if they’re not posted online.  It may even shift the terms of a relationship, gearing decisions based on how to share them with internet friends.  And viral proposal videos only seem to be encouraging that.  I mean, come on, if you didn’t propose by flash mob, you didn’t propose at all.

Videos like this are cute and great and all, but they by no means add to or take away from any other love.  The more over the top they get, the more it seems to relate more to a viral video than a proposal.  The love is still there, but it kind of ceases to be the focus.  The outrageousness of it, or the big surprise becomes central as opposed to just two people sharing the moment they decide to spend the rest of their lives together.

When two people make that commitment to take their relationship to the next level or sort of just keep the same relationship but add some jewelry and legal stuff, it is a pretty big deal, so big that they’ll want to shout it from the proverbial rooftops.  Or shout it from the ultimate rooftop, the internet.

But know that if you’re in this situation, you are not obligated to share it with billions of other people.  You are not obligated to express your love by choreographing an unexpected dance or using a JumboTron while a 50-piece orchestra plays on.  These things are definitely fun and cute, but if it’s not your thing, that’s cool too.  You are totally allowed to express your love any way you want, with or without the aid of the internet and it will be just as beautiful and lovey dovey as any other expression.