We all know that comparing ourselves to others is a slippery slope, but that doesn’t stop most of us from doing it pretty often. The grass on the other side always seems to be greener, prettier, richer, more confident, etc. etc. But each time we compare ourselves to others, we are putting our self-esteem at a serious risk.
Turning off the voice in our heads isn’t easy, as we are constantly bombarded with images, Facebook status updates, television shows (hello Kardashians!), music videos, and other media that tells us how other people have it, and why their lives seems so much better than ours.
While it may not seem feasible to shut off all that noise, we’ve come up with a few things you can do to limit the amount of energy you put into judging yourself in comparison to those around you.
Appreciate the quiet.
It may seem like celebrities have it good: lots of money, makeup artists, and assistants at their beck and call. But you know what they don’t have? Privacy. Appreciate the time you have to let your guard down and be yourself. Having fun, living life, and making mistakes is easier with out a million people watching you on TV.
Set attainable goals, and achieve them.
Just wanting to be rich is not going to get you there. You have to actually work towards every goal you have. Putting in the effort, and taking charge of your life will boost self-esteem in incredible ways. You’ll feel like Beyoncé on the inside, and you’ll project that confidence on the outside, which will only help further your cause.
Stop beating yourself up.
At the end of the day, all you can say is you’ve done your best. Your friends and family love you for who you are, and you should do the same. It’s a cliché, sure, but one we definitely believe in. Love yourself, and the world will love you too.
If you’re still feeling hypercritical of yourself, we suggest talking with a therapist. Venting your frustrations will help ease some of the anxiety. Please get in touch with us!