Why Won’t My Man Propose?

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With Valentines Day around the corner…it’s hard not to think about love and marriage…especially if you are in a long-term relationship! Perhaps you have been together a while now, and you aren’t getting any younger! Perhaps you have even talked about the future and he didn’t run away. You can’t help but think about why he hasn’t made the move yet. Perhaps you even have heated discussions over it. You have begun to dread facebook and you silently curse the happy couples making engagement announcements and posting couple photo shoots. To make matters worse, nosey relatives and coworkers keep asking why you aren’t engaged yet. Well…here’s how to deal…

First, try not to rush your man into proposing. The harder you push, the longer he may wait! If you think about it, this is pretty much the last decision he will be making on his own so we can’t blame him for trying to hang on to this last little bit of “single” man power! If you are constantly looking for and expecting something to happen, it is going to be really hard for him to surprise you! Also, be patient. Guys totally think in a different way than us. It may feel like this weekend’s BBQ would be the perfect time for a proposal…surrounded by family and such…or perhaps you have a dream of his proposal on Valentine’s day where the whole restaurant will applaud your “YES” and shower you with champagne… but he may have a totally different idea in mind. Sigh I was brushing my teeth when my man decided to pop the question. Let this be his show… you’ll get to take the reigns when it comes time to plan the wedding!

When people start asking inappropriate questions, it will be important to take a few deep breaths. Questions about your relationship status can make everyone feel awkward and uncomfortable! As tempting as it is, do not throw your significant other to the wolves by deflecting the question on to him or her with a death glare and silent head turn in their direction; and also try not to fight fire with fire by throwing back the “I don’t know…Why aren’t you divorced yet?” zinger… Instead, take a deep breath and let Nosy Nancy know that you both are enjoying being together and will take the next step when the time is right.

Then, follow your own advice. “Enjoy being together and believe the next step will come when the time is right!” Let go of any expectations that may surround the upcoming Holiday of Love. It is just another day (that happens to have overpriced pre-fixed dinner menus and a shortage of roses). Take the pressure off, and be yourself. Be the woman he fell for in the first place. Be the woman he will want to marry. Once you get the ring, you can let your inner Bridezilla shine…